I am really annoyed my husband for not telling the truth to his parents.?
Question by lovetodrive: I am really annoyed my husband for not telling the truth to his parents.?
My mother and family are very handy people. My mom went out of her way to help us install laminate flooring and backsplash in the kitchen. she took 2 days off from work to help us do the job properly and also showed my husband how to use the cutting machine for the backsplash. I was expecting that my husband will tell his parents that he completed theses two projects with the help of my mom and that there was lot of work involved. Instead he just said it that yeah WE did all the work in 2 days and didn’t mention anything to his parents that he was able to do all this because of my mom and her assistance. His mom now thinks that he did everything.and i am not happy with this because to me this is a lie. I hate when people doesn’t give credit to those people who have went out of their way to help them. I did talk to my husband about this and that his thing was that that there is already a friction in two families so why talk about it.
I don’t know what to do. please help
Best answer:
Answer by Denise J
Let it go. Your Mom probably doesn’t care if she gets credit for the work or not. Don’t embarass your husband by telling that your Mom showed him how to do it correctly. Let him feel and act like the “man of the house.” Now make a list of the other things you want done around the house and get him started on those projects.
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If there is friction in the family why do you want to add to it.
I was the same way when I got married.I was raised to give credit and thanks when due.So it was very hard for me when my husband told his mom we moved in on a weekend.When he didn’t mention that the only reason we were able to was because my mom helped me pack up and move my bedroom into our new house, as well as unpacked while I helped him pack up his room and get him moved in.
At first I was angry but then I stepped back and realized if he told his parents , It wasn’t like they were going to call my mom and thank her for helping us.Instead all it would of done was show a preference.and cause more tension.You need to pick your battles.I understand your loyalty to your family,[this is something all people deal with] but you have to realize your loyalty is now to your husband as well.And if he would rather not get chewed out or have his family feel guilty for not helping [guilt never helps anyone.] then let him.
I know my marriage to my husband caused a lot of tension on my husbands side.Even though my family welcomed him right away.you have to just let it go.It’s a part of marriage.Sometimes you have to keep things between your husband and yourself.Especially when in laws are concerned.
I just hope you don’t have that preference problem.My Mother in law is constantly playing my husband against his siblings.And the daughter in laws against one another.She will talk about being civil but the first chance she gets she will drop information to try and cause rifts. We just learned to deal with them in small doses and let her play her game without getting too involved.
As long as he thanked your mom and family that’s enough.If your still upset about it buy them dinner.